Let’s Talk Turkey (Or: Why A Bird From The Hand Is Worth Two In The Aisle)

I got flipped the bird today. It’s not an unusual experience, given my friends group, but usually it’s unwarranted from strangers. Usually. Today it was completely unwarranted. A driver cut me off… not once, but twice. The first time, I expressed my displeasure verbally, in a way he…

It's All About The Interview (Or: One Of These Things Is Just Like The Other)

Dating. Oh yeah, dating. What an incredibly tiring endeavor. Wouldn’t it be nice to just find someone who you click with and understands your strengths and weaknesses instantly, with that amazing combination of passion, friendship, trust, honesty, and empathy that the movies always tell us about? ...Or to realize…

Black[hawk] Ops (Or: How I Sabotaged Myself and Said Yes When I Meant No)

"You're gonna be cut up if you keep betting with me." The statement echoed through my head as I finished my cleanup set of push-ups yesterday - 4 sets of 13. My friend and I have a bet when the Dallas Stars play the Chicago Blackhawks, and for as much…

Rule 5 (Or: Why It's Important To Develop Callouses)

RULE 5: Harden The Fuck Up. Life throws a lot of shit our way. It's part of human nature; how we deal with it is a measure of who we are as people. Some folks get caught in the tumult their whole lives, and some learn from the inevitable difficulties…

A Tale of Two Counters (Or: Why You Should Never Expect A Better Job From Your Current Employer)

Recently I have been coaching an acquaintance on negotiating an offer for a new job. It is one of those things that I actually rather enjoy doing; I like the mentoring aspect of employment and with the number of times my employment has changed since I started working at 14…

The Two Rs (Or: Two Is Enough, Three Is A Crowd)

Relationships are difficult. I never particularly thought they were easy, but as I blunder around in my mid-30's, I have quite a different perception of a romantic relationship than I did when I was younger. Even 10 years ago I would have considered Cyrano de Bergerac a master of the…